Stop Hiding Behind WHAT You Do
Updated: Dec 13, 2019
Why do you do what you do? Why do you work where you work?
I'm not looking for the Pageant answer; I love what I do, I love helping people, I am passionate about my work. If that is your answer then you are lying to yourself. If your job stopped paying you tomorrow, you would go out and find another job. So deep down you may enjoy your work, but that is not why you do it. You do it so you can earn a living so you can put a roof over your head and feed your family.
If we are honest with ourselves, the reason we work is to make a living for our family. I go to work 5 days a week to make a living for my family. Go sit in the middle of an empty room a repeat that 5 times. I go to work 5 days a week to make a living for my family. Now that you have come to grips with reality, you can fundamentally understand your WHY in relation to your WHAT.
I'm not confused about my WHY anymore. I wake up every day knowing I want to provide the best possible life for my family. Here's where most of you will give up and go back to hiding behind your WHAT, you say you want to provide the best life for your family yet you let your job dictate the life you and your family have.
Focusing on the WHAT is a selfish place to be. You end up picking a job because, it's what you went to school for, it fulfills you, or because it's within your comfort zone. By focusing on WHAT, you have made your pursuit of the best possible life for your family all about you. You can't feed your family and your ego at the same time. Stop focusing on WHAT you do. It doesn't matter. WHAT you do is simply a vehicle to accomplish your WHY. Providing the best life possible for your family is what matters.
When you settle by picking WHAT you do, you do not get to pick the outcome, it is picked for you. You can't be a high school teacher and be a multi-millionaire. You can't be a doctor, lawyer or CEO and be a full-time husband and father.
If you pursue your WHY then you will open yourself up to opportunities that provide the results you want in life. This goes against everything we are taught by our parents and our teachers, but chances are you want a better life than your parents or your teachers have so it stands to reason you need to think differently than they do. I was fed up with sacrificing my life to climb a corporate ladder that would never ever come close to fulfilling my WHY.
When I realized that I could become the CEO of any company and I would not be providing the best possible life for my wife and kids, my world changed. My wife and kids didn't care what my title was. They didn't care what I did everyday at my job. They cared when I was going to be home. My wife and kids don't go to work during the week and yet they look forward to the weekend, as if they worked 100 hours a week, because they get to spend time with me.
"Most men would die for their families, but will they live for them?"
I had to take a step back and truly understand what providing the best life possible for my family meant. To me, it was about giving them a dream lifestyle. The houses, the cars, the vacations, a great education etc. To them, it was about time. It was about doing life together as a husband to my wife and a father to my kids. I learned that time is the true meaning of wealth and the measuring stick of success.
Your WHY may be completely different than mine and that is fine. Take your WHY and put it into perspective. In my case, that meant putting it in my wife and kids perspective, not my own. Then bring your WHY to the forefront of every decision you make. Fight with everything you have and do whatever it takes to get the results you're after.
For me, I had to reevaluate the vehicle I was in. Trading my time for money was never going to get me to my WHY. I never would have realized that if I didn't bring my WHY to the forefront and pursue it relentlessly. Doing so has opened up doors to opportunities that align with my WHY. Stop hiding behind what you do and letting that dictate the outcome of your life. I hope you find your WHY because I hid behind my WHAT for too long. Focusing on WHAT you do will lead you to a life of existence. Pursuing your WHY will lead to a life purpose.